Spiritual Sexuality

Our Grand-Shaikh, Imam al-‘Arus Sayyid Muhammad b. Ahmad Lebbai (may Allah perfume his resting abode), has said the following while discussing the concept of akmalu-sh shuhud (the most perfect perception):

If you want to transform your lawful matrimonial act (sexual intercourse) into the most meritorious spiritual exercise, carefully observe the following points while making union with your lawful wife:

  • You should not be focused on gratifying sexual pleasure alone. Rather, your intent should be aimed at fulfilling your spiritual aspiration, viz., Kulli Juz’i (The divine whole, and the mortal parts).
  • You should not harbour any other thought except the dhikr of the Divine Name “Allah” in your mind. The dhikr of the firm statement “la ilaha illa-Llah” alone has to be in your wife’s mind, perceiving only the Reality.
  • In doing so, your position becomes as if you are the qalam (pen) and she the lawh (tablet), resulting in the production of a copy from the original work called Nur Muhammadiyyah (the Light of Muhammad and its Excellences).

It is only when you follow these instructions that your matrimonial act will amount to following the qualities of the chosen beloved (Allah bless him and give him peace).

This (i.e. spiritual dimension of lawful intercourse) is why the Messenger of Allah (upon him be blessings and peace) said:

حبب إلي من دنياكم ثلاث النساء والطيب وقرة عيني في الصلوة

There are three things that delight me in your world:
lawful wives, sweet odours and prayers that
give me pleasure and cool my eyes.

— Shu’ayb, T (1993). Arabic Arwi and Persion in Sarandib and Tamil Nadu. 1st ed. Madras: Imamul ‘Arus Trust. 472.

This is a spiritual method/exercise that should be accompanied by the Prophetic guidelines on bedroom relations in relation to the lawful [halal], prohibited [haram], recommended [mandub], and disliked [makruh]. Special attention should be paid to privacy, cleanliness, and the relevant supplications to be uttered at the appropriate moments. These are compiled in the document below:

Invocations & Supplications

Success and guidance is from Allah!


Salat for the Day of Ashura

The importance and special qualities of the Day of Ashura are well-established. What is less known (or forgotten) are prayers associated with the day.

To revive the practice of performing additional prayers during the nights and days of special occasions, we quote the following 3 prayers from Sayyiduna al-Shaikh ‘Abd al-Qadir al-Jilani’s  al-Ghunya li-Talibi Tariq al-Haqq.

If one is able to and possesses high spiritual resolve [himma], one may perform all 3 prayers at various times of the night and day of Ashura. Success is from Allah and He is the Guide!

Prayer 1

Transmitted on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be well pleased with him and his father), Allah’s Messenger (Allah bless him and give him peace) said:

If someone performs four cycles of ritual prayer [sallâ arba’a raka’ât] on the day of Ashura—reciting in each cycle the Opening Sura of the Book [fâtihat al-kitâb], one time, and the Sura that begins with “Qul Huwa Llâhu Ahad” [surat al-ikhlâs], fifty times—Allah (Exalted is He) will forgive him the sins of fifty bygone years, and of fifty years that are still in the future. Allah (Exalted is He) will also build for him, in the midst of the Heavenly Host [al-mala’ al-a’lâ], a thousand palaces of light.

Prayer 2

According to another traditional report [hadith] reported by Abu Huraira (may Allah be well pleased with him), the prayer [salât] prescription is as follows:

[The worshipper should perform] four cycles of ritual prayer [arba’a raka’ât], with two salutation [taslimatain], reciting in each cycle:

  • the Opening Sura of the Book [fâtihat al-kitâb], one time.
  • the Sura that begins with “Idhâ zulzilati l-ardu zilzâla-hâ” [surat al-zilzâl], one time.
  • the Sura that begins with “Qul yâ ayyuha l-kâfirun” [surat al-kâfirun], one time.
  • the Sura that begins with “Qul Huwa Llâhu Ahad” [surat al-ikhlâs], one time.

Then, when he has concluded his performance of the ritual prayer, he should invoke blessings upon the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), seventy times.

Prayer 3 – salât al-khusamâ

The ritual prayer for one’s adversaries in litigation [salât al-khusamâ’] consists of four cycles [arba’a raka’ât], with only one salutation [taslima]. It is performed as follows:

  • In the first cycle, the worshipper must recite the Opening Sura of the Book [fâtihat al-kitâb] (one time) and “Qul Huwa Llâhu Ahad” [surat al-ikhlâs], eleven times.
  • In the second cycle, he must recite the Opening Sura of the Book [fâtihat al-kitâb] (one time), “Qul Huwa Llâhu Ahad” [surat al-ikhlâs], ten times, and “Qul yâ ayyuha l-kâfirun” [surat al-kâfirun], three times.
  • In the third cycle, he must recite the Opening Sura of the Book [fâtihat al-kitâb] (one time), “Qul Huwa Llâhu Ahad” [surat al-ikhlâs], ten times, and “Alhâ-kumu t-takâthuru” [surat at-takâthur], one time.
  • In the fourth cycle, he must recite the Opening Sura of the Book [fâtihat al-kitâb] (one time), “Qul Huwa Llâhu Ahad” [surat al-ikhlâs], fifteen times, and the Verse of the Throne [âyat al-kursi], one time.

Then he must donate the spiritual reward [earned by his performance of this prayer] to his adversaries in litigation [khusamâ], so that Allah may satisfy their claim on the Day of Resurrection [yawm al-qiyamâ], if Allah (Exalted is He) so wills.

He must perform this ritual prayer on seven specific occasions, namely:

  1. on the first night of [the month of] Rajab;
  2. on the night of the middle of [the month of] Sha’ban;
  3. on the last Friday of [the month of] Ramadan;
  4. on the Festival of Fast-break [Eid al-Fitr];
  5. on the Festival of Sacrifice [Eid al-Adha];
  6. on the Day of Arafa;
  7. on the Day of Ashura.

Regarding Virtuous Deeds

Imam al-Nawawi states in his al-Adhkar:

And he whom anything from the virtues of deeds reaches him should perform them, even though only once (in his lifetime) and even if the narration is weak.

In a narration recorded by Al-Hafiz Abu Musa Muhammad b. Bakr b. ‘Isa al-Madani in his book al-Waza’if, on the authority of Jabir b. Abdullah:

Whoever, a deed of virtue reaches him from Allah and he acts upon it out of faith and hope in reward, Allah will bestow that upon him, even though it was not like what he thought!

And Allah and His Messenger know best!


Dhikr and Du’a for Ashura

The following are the Arabic text and English translation of traditional invocations [adhkar] and supplications [ad’iyya] for the day of Ashura:

Invocation & Supplication for Ashura

Special Supplication for Ashura

And Allah is the Guide, eminent is His Glory.


Days of Allah – Muharram Al-Haram

Day Name Resting Abode
1 New Hijri Year
‘’ ‘Urs * Abu-l Ḥasan ‘Ali b. Muhammad al-Qurashi al-Hankari – Bio Baghdad, IQ
2 ‘Urs * Abu Mahfuz Ma’ruf b. Firuz al-Karkhi
Bio 1 | Bio 2Tomb
Baghdad, IQ
3 ‘Urs ‘Uthman b. Muhammad b. Ibrahim b. Abi Shaiba
Bio  His Passing
‘Urs Hasan Raza Khan
Bareilly, IN
4 ‘Urs Abu Sa’id Hasan b. Yasar al-Basri
Basra, IQ
5 ‘Urs Abu ‘Ali Fudayl b. ‘Iyad
Bio | Bio 2
Makkatu-l Mukarramah
‘’ ‘Urs Ganj-e-Shakar Baba Faridu-d Din Mas’ud
Bio 1 | Bio 2 | Wiki
Pakpattan, PK
6 ‘Urs ‘Abd Allah b. Maslama al-Qa’nabi al-Rahib
Bio (important student of Imam Malik b. Anas)
Basra, IQ
‘Urs Shah ‘Abdu-Llah Husaini Qadiri Shattari
Ahmedabad, IN
‘’ ‘Urs Prophet Zakariyya
Bio | Wiki
Palestine, PL
‘’ ‘Urs Prophet Yahya
Bio | Wiki
Palestine, PL
7 ‘Urs Battle of Khaybar
Wiki | Britannica
‘’ ‘Urs Khwaja Afaq Dehlvi
Bio (Eng) | Bio (Urdu)
Ahmedabad, IN
‘’ ‘Urs Sayyid Mawla Al-Dawila Al-Alawi (Syed Alavi Thangal)
His ShrineWiki
Mambaram, KL, IN
8 ‘Urs Abu-l Fath Hashmat Ali Khan Qadiri
Pilibhit Sharif, IN
9 ‘Urs Habib ‘Ali b. Muhammad al-Attas
Huraida, YE
10 Yawmu-l ‘Ashura – Day of Ashura
Recommended to Fast on 9th and 10th | DhikrDu’a
‘’ ‘Urs * Imam Abu Abdi-Llah Husain b. ‘Ali al-Sibt ash-Shahid – Tragedy of Karbala | Ahlu-l Bayt Cairo, EG/
Karbala, IQ
‘Urs Abu Ishaq al-Isfarâyînî
Bio (defender of Imam al-Ash’ari)
Isfarayin, IR
‘’ ‘Urs Abu-l Hasan Ali al-Kharaqani
Bio | Wiki
Kharaqan, IR
‘’ ‘Urs Ummu-l Khair Fatimah
Bio | Mother of Muhyiddin Abdul Qadir al-Jilani
Jilan, IQ
‘’ ‘Urs Khwaja Mirza Mazhar Jan-e-Janaan urf Shamsuddin Habibullah
Delhi, IN
‘’ ‘Urs Sayyid Shah Barkatullah Marehrawi
Marehra, IN
11 ‘Urs Abu ‘Abd Allah Wahb b. Munabbih al-Ṣan’ani al-Dhimari
His Passing  Wiki
Dhimar, YE
12 ‘Urs Najmuddin ‘Abd al-Ghaffar b. ‘Abd al-Karim al-Qazwini al-Shafi’i
Bio (Biographical Encyclopaedia of Sufis: Central Asia and Middle East, p. 233)
Qazwin, IR
13 ‘Urs Syed Waris Ali Shah
Bio | Wiki
Dewa Sharif, IN
14 ‘Urs Mufti-e-Azam Muhammad Mustafa Raza Khan
Bareilly, IN
‘’ ‘Urs Khwaja Mamshad Uluw al-Dinawari
Daynur, IQ
‘’ ‘Urs Sayyid Shah Hamza Marehrawi
Marehra, IN
15 ‘Urs Sayyid Muhammad Baghdadi al-Qadiri
His Wedding
Madinatu-l Munawwarah
16 ‘Urs Qutbuddin Aibak
Bio 1  Bio 2  Wiki
Lahore, PK
17 ‘Urs Muhammad Effendi al-Yaraghi
Daghestan, RU
18 ‘Urs * Imam Abu-l Hasan ‘Ali Zainu-l ‘Abidin b. Husain al-SajjadShort Bio Madinatu-l Munawwarah
‘’ ‘Urs Ismail b. Haji Abdul Majid al-Kalantani
Machang, Kelantan, MY
19 ‘Urs * Sayyid Ahmad b. Sayyid Hasan al-Jilani
Baghdad, IQ
‘’ ‘Urs Khwaja Durwesh Muhammad
Asqarar, UZ
20 ‘Urs Companion Bilal al-Habashi
Damascus, SY
21 ‘Urs Khwaja Zindapir Sahib
Bio | Pictures
Ghamkol, Kohat, PK
22 ‘Urs Sayyid Shamsuddin Qadiri urf Nana Pir
His Dargah
Chuduguppa, Bidar, KA, IN
23 ‘Urs Nasiruddin Yusuf b. Tashfin al-Sanhaji
Wiki  His Passing before meeting Al-Ghazali
Marrakech, MA
*24 ‘Urs Abu Tayyib ibn Salama al-Dubbi al-Shafi’i
Bio (Ibn Khallikan’s Bio Dictionary, p. 610)
Baghdad, IQ
25 ‘Urs Abu ‘Ali al-Tanukhi
Bio (Ibn Khallikan’s Bio Dictionary, p. 564)
Baghdad, IQ
26 ‘Urs * Sayyid Hasan al-Jilani
Baghdad, IQ
‘’ ‘Urs Sayyid Muhammad Taju-d Din Baba
Nagpur, IN
‘’ ‘Urs Sayyid Sāhib Husaynī al-Qadiri
Tekmal, IN
‘’ ‘Urs Sir ‘Abdullah Archibald Hamilton [18 Mar 1939]
Brookwood, GB
27 ‘Urs Sayyid Ashraf Jahangir Simnani
Bio | Wiki
Kichaucha, IN
28 ‘Urs Haider ‘Ali Thani Shah Wajihu-d Din Husaini Qadiri Shattari – Bio Ahmedabad, IN
‘’ ‘Urs Shah Waliyu-Llah Dehlavi
Delhi, IN
‘’ ‘Urs Sharif Sa’id b. ‘Abdullah al-Bid
Mambrui, KE
29 ‘Urs Sayyid Muhammad ad-Dandarawi
Madinatu-l Munawwarah
‘Urs Syed ‘Ali Mira Datar
Bio  Bio 2
Unjha, GJ, IN
30 ‘Urs Izzeddin Al-Haznevi

* Masters of the ‘Arusiyyah branch of the Qadiriyyah way of Islamic Spirituality

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Muharram Essentials


Du’a Awwal al-Sana – Awwal Muharram

It is from the practice of the pious [sâlihîn] to recite the following supplication [du’â] three (3) times after the sunset prayers [salâtu-l maghrib] on the first day of Muharram which is the Islamic New Year.

Amongst others, this supplication can be found in:

  • kanzu-n najahi wa-s surur
    by: Al-‘Allamah Al-Shaikh ‘Abdul Hamid b. Muhammad ‘Ali Quds
  • al-munjiyat
    by: Shaikh Dr. Thaika Shu’aib al-Kirkari al-Siddiqi

Some saints [awliyâ] have said that reciting this supplication will result in Allah, Most High, assigning two (2) Angels to protect the reciter from committing (major) sins.

And Allah and His Messenger know best!

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيْم

وَصَلَّى اللهُ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى اَلِهِ وَصَحْبِهِ وَسَلَّمَ، اَللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ اْلأَبَدِيُّ الْقَدِيْمُ اْلأَوَّلُ ، وَعَلَى فَضْلِكَ الْعَظِيْمِ وَكَرَمِ جُوْدِكَ الْمُعَوَّلِ، وَهَذَا عَامٌ جَدِيْدٌ قَدْ أَقْبَلَ ، أَسْئَلُكَ الْعِصْمَةَ فِيْهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ وَأَوْلِيَائِهِ وَجُنُوْدِهِ، وَالْعَوْنَ عَلَى هَذِهِ النَّفْسِ اْلأَمَّارَةِ بِالسُّوْءِ، وَاْلإِشْتِغَالَ بِمَا يُقَرِّبُنِي إِلَيْكَ زُلْفَى، يَا ذَا الْجَلاَلِ وَاْلإِكْرَامِ ، وَصَلَّى اللهُ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ النَّبِيِّ اْلأُمِّيِّ وَعَلَى اَلِهِ وَصَحْبِهِ وَسَلَّمَ

bismi Llâhi-r raḥmâni-r raḥîm, wa sṣalla Llâhu ‘alâ sayyidinâ Muḥammadin wa ‘alâ âlihi wa sṣahḥbihi wa sallam, Allâhumma anta-l abadiyyu-l qadîmu-l awwal, wa ‘alâ fadḍlika-l azẓîmi wa karami jûdika-l mu’awwali, wa hâdhâ âmun jadîdun qad aqbal, as’aluka-l ‘iṣmata fîhi mina-sh shaiṭâni wa awliyâ’ihi wa junûdihi, wa-l ‘awna ‘alâ hâdhihi-n nafsi-l ammârati bi-s sû’i, wa-l ishtighâla bimâ yuqarribunî ilaika zulfâ, yâ dha-l jalâli wa-l ikrâmi, wa ṣalla Llâhu ‘alâ sayyidinâ Muḥammadini-n nabiyyi-l ummiyyi wa ‘alâ âlihi wa ṣaḥbihi wa sallam.

In the name of Allah, the Universally Merciful, the Singularly Compassionate. And blessings and peace be upon our liege-lord Muhammad, his family and companions. O Allah, Thou are the First from All Eternity. By Thou great bounty and generosity, this is the dawn of another new year. (So) I beseech Thee at this hour to bestow upon me (a) an impregnable shield from the malevolent plots of the accursed Satan, his allies and his foot-soldiers and (b) succour over the evil-self that incites to deviation, disobedience, and sin and (c) to engage in that which brings proximity to Thee. O possessor of Supreme Majesty and Unrivalled Generosity. And blessings and peace be upon the unlettered Prophet, Muhammad, and upon his family and companions.

A Longer Du’a Awwal Al-Sana

This is another du’a for the beginning of the New Year from the Office of the Mufti, Singapore:

Success and guidance is from Allah. There is no power or might, except Allah.